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Cohousing

Experience the benefits of a safe and supportive village-like neighbourhood

What is it?

Cohousing is an alternative approach that seeks to balance community, privacy and shared spaces to create a high functioning neighbourhood that meets peoples desire for community, while providing the privacy of a traditional home. The basic traits of cohousing include:

  • An intention to create community,
  • shared facilities and public space, 
  • a common house, 
  • self-governance,
  • design input by future residents,
  • and common meals​


Who's it good for?

Families with Younger Children


A safe place where kids can roam free with their playmates.

It's easy to visit a neighbour-friend, yet return home to change a diaper.

Support other parents when they are having a rough moment by having their kids over for a short time.


Adults


A place where you can feel connected, safe and supported. 

A base where you can have an excellent quality of life while maintaining connections intergenerataionally and with the wider community.

Support for aging in place.

Features of Cohousing

 

Participatory Process

Put your stamp on it!  Your values will be reflected in the development of the community, so that it directly responds to your needs.  

Neighborhood Design

You’ll feel the difference.  The physical design of the neighbourhood encourages a sense of community as well as maintaining privacy.  Usually, there is a pedestrian-oriented design with the cars at the periphery, so you meet neighbours throughout the day, and the kids have a safe place to play.

Private Homes Supplemented by Common Facilities

In addition to your own apartment or townhouse, you will enjoy common facilities too.  They typically include a dining area, sitting area, children’s play room, guest room, as well as garden and other amenities. Each household owns a private residence —complete with kitchen-but also shares extensive common facilities with the larger group. 

Resident Management

You and your neighbours will take care of the community spaces and each other after move-in.  The community is not dependent on any one person, even though there is often a “burning soul” that gets the community off the ground, and another that pulls together the financing, and another that makes sure you, the group, has babysitters for meetings, and another….  

Sociocracy and Compassionate Communication 

You and your neighbours may try sociocracy as a governance structure.  Sociocracy ensures that everyone is heard, and decisions are made on the basis of “good enough to try”.  This approach reduces some of the challenges of consensus.

When we pay attention to the words we use and the way we use them, we improve the odds of strengthening and deepening our most meaningful relationships. Compassionate Communication (or Non Violent Communication / NVC ) gives a technique for communicating compassionately which relies on four core steps:

  1. Observing a situation without judgment;
  2. Discerning which emotions are being triggered in the situation;
  3. Connecting those emotions to the underlying needs that aren’t being addressed; and
  4. Making a reasonable request of the other person.

FAQs

About Cohousing


From the Canadian Cohousing Network:

  • “Cohousing provides personal privacy combined with the benefits of living in a community where people know and interact with their neighbours. It’s about living in a way that’s responsive to a world that has changed dramatically in the last fifty years… Cohousing offers hope in our often dissociated society. Through cohousing, we can build a better place to live, a place where we know our neighbours, a place where we can enjoy a rich sense of community and contribute to a more sustainable world.”

From the Cohousing Association of the United States:

  • “Cohousing is community designed to foster connection. Physical spaces allow neighbors to easily interact with others just outside private homes. Common areas including kitchen, dining space and gardens bring people together. Collaborative decision-making builds relationships.

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Cohousing community values are based on working cooperatively. We will work together to create this community, both in terms of the building under construction, and the social connections amongst neighbours.

Our community will succeed and thrive based on member participation. Each person finds their own niche, based on their skills, passions and capacity to contribute. In addition, we recognize that flexibility is important (e.g. new baby, family illness, disability).

Typical areas in which people choose to participate are governance (e.g. committees, facilitation, record keeping, bookkeeping), physical work (e.g. gardening, maintenance) and community building (e.g. social events, conflict resolution).

The community will also have a system of common meals. typically meals are provided 3 to 4 times per week and are optional to attend (if it works for your schedule and sounds tasty!). In each 4 week cycle, everyone signs up for 2 cooking and/or cleaning shifts, according to their skills and interests. Each meal is cooked by a team of 3 people, gratefully enjoyed by a group of neighbours, and then cleaned up by a team of 3 people.

Cohousing typically uses consensus decision-making, which is a cooperative process in which the community works together to understand an issue and develop a suitable proposal, and agrees to support a decision that is in the best interest of the whole group (as opposed to a decision that is in the best interest of certain individuals). In cohousing jargon, it usually works out as “most people get most of what they want, most of the time”.

Path to cohousing

Intergenerational housing improves health outcomes for everyone, building an overall sense of trust and increasing social connections. 

CHILDREN and YOUTH

Children benefit from living in an intergenerational cohousing community; there are always other kids to play with (and to practice working out differences) and neighbours available to supervise a park mission, read a book or teach a craft. Children demonstrate more interactive and cooperative play while youth show an improved sense of self-worth and empathetic communication. 

ADULTS

Especially for parents of young children, cohousing can smooth some of the wrinkles of day-to-day life and reduce parent burn-out by sharing common activities. Besides the convenient camaraderie of our common meal system, knowing your neighbours comes in handy when school has early dismissal or you’re hoping to swap childcare.

SENIORS

Seniors can be vulnerable to isolation. Aging in place in a community where you’re known, needed and participating can alleviate that risk.